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Friday, 9 January 2015


Last weekend, a friend pulled me up on my use of language. I seem to have picked up some unfavourable habits, particularly the repeated use one very bad 'C' word. I'm not proud of it. In fact, I'm a little embarrassed. But unfortunately, this expletive keeps falling out of my mouth without any consideration for the consequences.

In the past week I've said I "can't" ride a bike, "can't" reach the top of a bouldering route, "can't" hold dish, "can't" perform decent dismounts in trapeze, "can't" do push ups. On all counts, this is absolute rubbish. This negativity needs to stop!

"Can't" is a powerful word and should be used with caution, although, preferably it should be erased from the English language all together. It's restrictive. As soon as a 'C' bomb is dropped, it creates a barrier between you and achieving something amazing. A limit is set and it's very hard to mentally push past those negative thoughts once they've been planted.

Saying you "can't" do something is like giving up before you've given yourself a chance! So you've attempted a pull-up and didn't quite get all the way up, that doesn't mean you "can't" ever do one, you just have some work to do.

Less than 50 years ago, it was thought women were physically unable to run a marathon. But heroes like Bobbi Gibb and Kathrine Switzer, refused to accept the "can't"s and proved the nay sayers wrong by running the Boston marathon. It's now completely normal to see women make up half the field of marathons and ultra marathons.

So from now on, I'm going to do my best to hold my tongue and remove this 'C' word from my vocabulary and replace it with "can". Just imagine what could be achieved if only we believed it was possible?!


  1. Mrs B wrote a post on how in fitness there are no impossibles only not yets:http://mindovermatterblog.net/2015/01/impossible-becoming-possible/

    Also you're right, can't is powerful- when people on diets say they 'can't' eat something they are much more likely to cheat than if they say they 'don't' eat stuff like that. Could think of it that way, not I 'cant' do a route, but that you 'don't do that route... Yet!' :-). Great post

    1. Thanks for this brilliant link! And what a great thought – "[I] 'don't' do that...yet!"

  2. This is a great post, Jen!

    At first I thought you were talking about bad language and I was in total agreement as I've actually gotten into that bad habit. ;) However, I was still in total agreement after reading the whole post!

    I used to be someone that used to say the C word quite often. I don't so much anymore and have learnt to listen to myself properly rather than just give up before I've gotten anywhere.

    It's definitely a hard habit to break but great once you do! :)

    Laura | laurafat2fit.blogspot.co.uk

    1. Ha ha! Yes, I'm guilty of sometimes saying the other 'C' word, too.

      Well done for kicking "Can't"!

  3. HAHAHA fantastic twist. I was thinking... "I sometimes use the C word too..." then realised which one you meant.

    1. Ha! I'm guilty of both but "can't" is the most evil of the two.